THE WRITE MEMORIES

Patrick Swayze's Life Dance ♥

2010-01-27T18:51:00.002-06:00

♥ Book of the Season! Patrick Swayze and his wife Lisa Niemi's autobiography written right before he passed, called, The Time Of My Life. Check it out on Amazon, Barnes and Nobel, or your local library!

♥ Life tells a story in various ways, be it written in print or written in dance. Enjoy this breath-taking vid of Patrick Swayze and his wife, Lisa. Miss him so much, as I know, Lisa, his wife of 30+ years does!

♥ Consider making a vid of what you like to do as a hobby! Catch yourself in action!

You might want to scroll to the bottom of this page and turn off the Play list in order to hear the vid better. Clk on the upper icon on the Play list! Thanks!

Pat and Alan Wilbourn Still Dancing ♥

2010-01-14T12:07:00.001-06:00

I thought I'd share this wonderful vid of my precious friends, Pat and Alan Wilbourn, who danced their memories right into Heaven on Christmas Eve.

YOU MIGHT WANT TO SCROLL TO THE BOTTOM OF THE SIDEBAR, ON THE RIGHT, AND CLICK THE MIDDLE UPPER ICON ON MY PLAYLIST TO TURN IT OFF SO THAT YOU MIGHT BETTER HEAR THIS LOVELY MEMORY ON VIDEO.

Extraordinary Measures

2010-01-09T17:35:00.000-06:00

For certain, I made a memory this week. But not just any memory, but one that my great grandchildren will hear about for certain! I won tickets to see a private elite screening of the upcoming movie, Extraordinary Measures, starring Harrison Ford and Brendan Fraser, and Keri Russell.

Along with tickets to the screening was the "bucket list" opportunity to get to greet and meet one of my fave actors, Harrison Ford. Suffice it to say, I must be, as one friend described, starstruck! Days later, can you believe I'm still wearing the band that allowed us into the screening with Mr. Ford? Oh my. And, for certain, I'm still reliving meeting him eye to eye, face to face, smile to smile. What a class act he is.

Mr. Ford is not only starring in this film, he is producing it as well. As a matter of fact, this will be his premiere production. So he can add this to his multiplicity of accomplishments, such as being an accomplished pilot and master carpenter, just to name a few. Geee, I do need new cabinets in my laundry room, and I have been looking for a good flight instructor.

But What's The Movie About?
Based on the true story and book, The Cure about John and Aileen Crowley, Extraordinary Measures unfolds a heart rending movie that will steal your heart. The Crowley's story is not an easy one to watch, yet they bring over the top inspiration to the audience. I highly recommend taking the time to go see this movie coming to your area in wide release on January 22, 2010.

EXtra Sites to Check Out!
Harrison Ford audio interview about the film. Take the time to listen to his audio. I think you'll get a better feel for the movie as well as the ♥ of Harrison Ford.

John and Aileen Crowley's personal website.

The book, The Cure.

****Remember, before viewing this clip, please go to the bottom of the page and turn off my playlist.

Dancing Their Way Into Heaven ♥

2010-01-09T14:43:00.000-06:00

Just want to take the time to honor a very special couple in our community, Pat and Alan Wilbourn, as well as Pat's mother, Kay Nelson. They were in a serious car accident on Christmas Eve that took their lives from this old earth.

Saying we'll miss them barely covers the surface of the loss we are experiencing. Yet, we are embracing the vast wonderful things they shared and taught us. May it be a challenge to us to take what we learned and live it out in our daily lives. ♥s

PHOTO: Taken from their blogsite. Pat and Alan were avid ballroom dancers/teachers.

Copyright © 2008 by Write Memories 4 Life. All rights reserved.

A Way With Words

2009-07-11T14:36:00.003-05:00

My Newest Found Treasure of Words
I'm loving the radio program called A Way With Words . Maybe you, too, receive the program on one of your public radio stations.

Check out the website. They also have Pod casts available. I think you will be glad you found this treasure.

Who Might The Program Benefit?
Considering the majority of us struggle with the daunting rules of grammar, A Way With Words should be an added welcome to our weekly, if not daily diets.

The Hosts
English/grammar experts Martha Barnette and Grant Barrett are the hosts. For certain, we will benefit from their casual and entertaining ability to help us understand the proper way to speak and write.

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To Apostrophe Or Not To Apostrophe

2009-06-18T13:05:00.004-05:00

Continuing on with a previous post concerning the daunting apostrophe, click here for another site that might be helpful in deciphering the English code!

Note that the apostrophe has not always been in the English language. Actually, it did not show itself until the 16th century; it came to us through the Latin and Greek and was used for the marking of lost letters. But it wasn't until the 19th century that the apostrophe was used to show possession. Source

So don't be discouraged if you struggle at times trying to diagnose your plural and possessive problems, with the English language/punctuation, of course.

Continue to practice and become more familiar with what is proper and what is not.

Too, remember that even the creme de le creme of English professors disagree. Factor that in with the changing of times and what has become acceptable and you will have great diversity on what is proper and what is acceptable. The 21st century gives much license to writing as you please. For some, that is what is called slaughtering the King's English.

It is this very thing that grabs people by the jugular, killing their incentive to write.

In my workshop, one of the first things I stress is that while I believe grammar is important, the correct use of it should never stop you from sharing your thoughts on paper. My goal is to provide a safe place for people to enter into the world of writing, and not so much the absolutes of grammar. The first step is to begin. Then concern yourself about editing.

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Good Bye, Mr. Analog, Thanks for the Memories!

2009-06-12T10:59:00.002-05:00

More than one million homes will NOT be prepared today for the 60 year old analog TV to be forever in the achieves of history.

Coupons are available from the govt. if you need a converter box for your analog TV. Click here for more detail.

Writing Idea:

Why not take the time today to write about your first memory of watching TV. More than likely, it was analog. Was it in color? Were you the first or last in your neighborhood to purchase a TV? What was the program you watched first? Describe how you felt, using five senses. And a sixth, if you have one!

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Can We Find Fiction In Our Life Stories?

2009-06-01T12:32:00.002-05:00

This month, I'm reading The Memory Keeper's Daughter by Kim Edwards. (Kim Edwards)

Perhaps, you have seen the TV movie with Dermot Mulroney. If not, I would highly recommend renting or buying a copy.

No, it's not an autobiography, but elements of it are mirrored in our own lives.

We think we are incapable of delving as low as the father (David Henry) did in Ms Edwards story, but, yet, if we look closely, we might find a piece or two of him buried in our own souls.

If not, we certainly might imagine ourselves to be the divine redeemer Caroline (Dr. Henry's nurse) was for Phoebe (Henry's daughter with Down Syndrome).

Regardless, I would think we might find traces of regret and redemption in our own lives drawn in and through this fictional story by Ms Edwards.

Too, remember, it is advantageous to be an avid reader of many genres as it will serve to improve our own writing.

Writing Idea:

Have you every been abandoned by anyone? Or maybe you were the one who abandoned someone or something. Perhaps, you know of someone who has or was abandoned.

Begin your draft.
Describe your feelings using your senses.
Tell the reader who, what, when, where, why, and how.
Step away from your writing for a few hours or a day.
Return with a fresh mind.
Add or delete anything that seems to bog down what you are tyring to convey.
Have a trusted friend to read and give you pointers.
Review and decide if this is your final copy.
Most of all, enjoy what you have learned about yourself while penning this heart-felt piece.

Make Us Plural

2009-05-30T14:50:00.001-05:00

Often, we find it difficult to know when to use an apostrophe. Remember, if a word is merely plural, you won't need an apostrophe. But if it's showing possession, then an apostrophe would be appropriate. However, even that can be tricky. So goes the English language.

Just as a tip to begin with, if you can place the word "of" and it make sense, often that means you need to show an apostrophe. Example: The dog's hair is uncontrollable. The hair of the dog is uncontrollable. Or you could say, The uncontrollable hair belongs to the dog. Both would show the dog's possession of uncontrollable hair.

How would you make the following surnames plural? Not possessive, but plural. Test yourself and find the answers at the end of this article.

1. Samples
2. Warren
3. Loy
4. Drox
5. Manly
6. Granger
7. Knight
8. Cross
9. Noble
10. Panara

Plural spellings of names-proper nouns/people: Which of the following are correct?

1. Griffith: Merry Christmas from the Griffith’s

2. Williams: Merry Christmas from the Williams’

3. Griffiths: Merry Christmas from the Griffiths

4. Williams: Merry Christmas from the Williamses

5. Griffiths: Merry Christmas from the Griffiths’

6. Williams: Merry Christmas from the Williamses’

ANSWER: Only numbers three and four are correct.

The first two examples are wrong for two reasons. First, the apostrophe makes the names possessive, and when we send family greetings, the greetings are from us, not from something we possess. The names “Smith” and “Williams” would need to be in the possessive case only if the greetings were from Will Smith’s dog or Bryan Williams’s horse (singular possessive).

Second, they are wrong because they are singular. The greeting is supposed to be from the entire family, not from an individual. Yet when we place the apostrophe where it is in examples one and two, we have made a singular word possessive instead of making it plural.

Another example: If their last name was William. It would be, The Williams wish you a Happy Day. Plural possession would be: Mr. William's dog wishes you a Happy Day!

Note: Though it is not acceptable in all codes of proper grammar, you may see adding an apostrophe to a name that ends in s for plural possession. Example: Charles' dog is barking. More acceptable in grammar is: Charles's dog just stopped barking.

Numbers three and four are correct because in both cases the words are plural but are not made possessive. To form the plural of any name that does not end in s or another sibilant (more on sibilants below), we simply add an s. Thus the name "Griffith" becomes Griffiths.

"Williams" is a little tougher because it ends with an s.

Names (and all other words, for that matter) that end with the sounds s, sh, ch, z, or x (what we call sibilants) are made plural by the addition of es. Thus, the name “Williams” in its plural form is "Williamses".

Here are some examples. These names end in sibilants and are thus made plural by adding es:

Happy Easter from the Bushes (plural form of the name Bush).

Happy Easter from the Churches (plural form of the name Church).

Happy Easter from the Joneses (plural form of the name Jones).

Happy Easter from the Foxes (plural form of the name Fox).

The following surnames do not end in sibilants and are thus made plural simply by adding s:

Happy holidays from the Johnsons (plural form of the name Johnson).

Happy holidays from the Chadleys (plural form of the name Chadley).

Happy holidays from the Terrys (plural form of the name Terry).

NOTE: Do NOT drop the "y" and add "ies" to proper names.

Easier Option!
Of course, after all this detail, another option would be to avoid both the plural and the possessive by writing “Happy Easter from the Bush family".

At another time, we may discuss situations in which the apostrophe should be used with names in order to show possession. But for now, remember that when greetings are from the entire family, the name needs to be plural, not possessive.

****I revised some of the above by changing names, and grammar that was incorrect from the original site.

Click here for source

Also, click here for the legit site called Get It Right.

Answers To First Quiz
1. Samples: The Sampleses
2. Warren: The Warrens
3. Loy: The Loys
4. Drox: The Droxes
5. Manly: The Manlys
6. Granger: The Grangers
7. Knight: The Knights
8. Cross: The Crosses
9. Noble: The Nobles
10. Panara: The Panaras

Click here for a link that will be helpful as well.
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Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man!

2009-04-04T18:28:00.006-05:00

Currently, I'm reading Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man by Steve Harvey.

Some of you may remember Steve Harvey from various films like The Fighting Temptations. He keeps you smiling. My hub cracks up laughing at Mr. Harvey's wit no matter how many times we watch that movie.

So obviously, he brings his keen and unique sense of humor onto/into the pages of this fun read. Accompanied with it is a sense of realness and sincerity. What more could you ask as a reader?

Remember how we have talked about humor playing a serious role in writing well? Well, Mr. Harvey is an excellent example for us in learning how to write something that grabs the attention of the audience.

Check these out on Amazon.com!

While this is not an autobiography, Mr. Harvey clearly shares his thoughts and snapshots of his personal life. So in some ways, there is an autobiographical sense to it. Perhaps, it's autobiographical "license".

I do enjoy sharing non-fiction books with you besides autos. And most of you have made it clear that you want a spectrum of choices in book suggestions.

So this is a freebie! Enjoy. At least take a look "inside" the book on Amazon. Remember your local library gives you great opportunity to read without your credit card. Minus the gasoline it took you to get there! Can you believe the prices?

Which makes for a good lead into an intriguing story: I Remember When Gasoline Was $.25 a Gallon. Well, some of you barely made it into the 20th century, so you won't be able to relate. Why not write a story about the time you ran out of gasoline. Or the time you were late for some grand event because someone else ran out of gasoline! Or the story you told your parents about why you were late getting home. Uh huh. Or was that the flat tire excuse?

Well, how did we get on this subject? I think it's called brain storming, which comes with my "package"!

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Happy 50, Barbie!

2009-03-09T18:49:00.004-05:00

Happy 50, Barbie! For more on this, please go to my Pilates/Health blog at www.pilatesworks4life.com!!!

Book and Author of the Month!
What I want to highlight here is the biography written about Barbie's "mom", Ruth Handler. The title is Barbie and Ruth The Story of the World’s Most Famous Doll and the Woman Who Created Her by author, Robin Gerber, Published by Collins Business, an imprint of Harper Collins Publishers, 2009.

I have not read all of Ms Gerber's book, but am on my way! Let me know what you think!!!!

For an AARP interview with Ms Gerber, click here!

The 50 year old Barbie photo was designed by a Brazilian artist. He was creating what he thought she might look like had she aged naturally, according to AARP (3/2009)

Amazon Books carries this book.
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The Anatomy of an Author!

2009-01-26T14:47:00.001-06:00

Needing to be more advanced on how the body works, we took off yesterday to the Dallas Museum of Arts to hear award winning author David Macaulay.

Of course, you know my mind was ready to dive into the anatomy of David Macaulay. Well, not exactly. The anatomy of his book.

Mom, on the other hand was there with her age old curiosity ready to pounce into Macaulay's lecture.

Fortunately, they actually had headphones that worked for her!!! And naturally, we started out with the vol. on "high". Until Mom bellowed out in a sea of quiet (the lecture in process), "That's TOO LOUD!!!!"

Heads turned, including ours as we pretended we didn't know who that ill mannered woman was. Of course, I'm joshing.

With Mouths Open
The lecture began and Mom sat there with her usual stance: her mouth hanging open. I don't know how much of it she retained, but I'm sure more than we did.
Did I mention Macauley is a genius? To say the least. He's amazing, at 62. Brilliant. Some say majestic, to which he chuckles in disbelief. For sure, he is unpretentiously humble. Refreshing.

He is also a winner of the 1991 Caldecott award (Black and White), along with many other prestigious invitations. How I remember Caldecott. I had to read all of them when I was in my undergrad program. In no way am I saying I agree with all the views of Caldecott or the medal award winning books. But some of them are worth taking a gander into.

Face-2-Face Anatomy

As you can see, we landed in the book-signing lane. Mr. Macauley was as delightful in person as he was at a distance.

I mentioned to him that I had great respect for what he had accomplished with his book, The Way We Work: Getting to Know the Amazing Human Body, because of my anatomy work in Pilates. His eyes deepened in thought as he turned to meet mine and said, "You know, I was told when researching for this book that I should learn Pilates, but I just didn't have the time." He encouraged me as he concluded, "But I know Pilates is an amazing way to learn about your body."

I couldn't escape recommending he choose a qualified Pilates instructor! With an educated certainty, he agreed. See you in the studio, David!!!

Then we were off to Mom's fave place: that would be any restaurant where there is food.

While there we not only had great food, but great entertainment: In the bathroom.

More on that another post...coming up soon!

Check out the website above for more info on Mr. Macaulay and Caldecott Books. I think you will find them both interesting, if nothing else.

NOTE: Article on Macaulay in Dallas Morning News (01/25/09); click on names above for webites on Caldecott and Macaulay.

History In The Making

2009-01-20T13:38:00.013-06:00

The 44th inauguration for the 43rd President of the United States. What sentiments do these different pix evoke?

PHOTOS: Taken with my IPHONE from ABC NEWS, 1/20/09.

Young boy in prayer during the inauguration prayer.
Dr. Rick Warren leads in prayer.
Aretha Franklin sings Let Freedom Ring.
Young boy looking on with hope for his tomorrows.
Obama and his wife being sworn in with Abe Lincoln's Bible.
And none other than Abe himself!

English As A FIRST Language???

2009-01-19T13:35:00.007-06:00

Forget English as a second language, which by the way, I used to teach at a local college.

What about English as a FIRST language????

I used to tell my ESL students not to worry too much about English speaking Americans. After all, ESA's slaughter the King's English on a regular basis.

Example: Most people have difficulty with verb-noun agreement. You would think figuring out which word is a person, place, or thing and which one shows action would be fairly simple! But when you add to it trying to decipher whether it's a single or plural subject so that you can decide what verb would agree...then comes trouble.

And so the story goes.

Life Example: I was in an At&T store the other day. A young Asian lady suddenly corrected her grammar. Verb-noun agreement. I had to chuckle. I told her most Americans would have never caught that she said it wrong, much less said it correctly themselves! She giggled.

So to get to a simple start, take a stroll over to the side-bar. Check out the new gadget (English Self-Test). Some of it is voice activated, so you'll need to click on the upper left icon. Just for fun. Or is it?

The truth is English isn't the easiest language to master. And just when you think you have it figured out, someone goes and changes the rules! Welcome to the 21st century.

The King And I

2009-01-10T15:03:00.008-06:00

What Can We Learn About Writing From the Previous Article?

We could write about historical events. Maybe not about Elvis' birthday, but we could write about how, if any, that he affected our personal lives. How he affected our culture. We could write about whether we remember what we were doing on the day he died. And how we were impacted.

With just these few ideas, let's look at an example of writing a story.

The King And I

I believe it was August 16, 1977. I was living at my mother's as I was separated from my husband. I recall working on a project in the back of the house, when I heard my little mother exclaiming, "Ellen, the king is dead. The king is dead!" I thought what king? And why is she so upset?

She continued as she was determined to get my audience. "Come quickly, Ellen!" Knowing my mom rarely got upset over anything, I ran down the hallway into the family room where she was watching TV. "Oh, Ellen, the king is dead." My thoughts: OK, I think I got that already!

"Mom, what king?" Her next words defaulted me into a blur for what seemed like eternity. "Elvis, the King of Rock n Roll."

Wasn't he too young? Yes, only 42, or 43. Wasn't he supposed to live forever? I mean he was bigger than life. Or so it seemed. How could this be?

Born To Die
Elvis Aron Presley, born January 8, 1934 to Gladys and Vernon Presley. He was a twin. Jessie Aron supposedly was the first born but died in birth. It was said that Elvis often commented that Jessie gave his life so that he, Elvis, might live.

We all know this little boy, who grew up in poverty became a phenom, a legend. He was given much too soon. How could any of us handled the fame and fortune he was either blessed with or cursed with?

I for one, will not be pointing my fingers at the choices he made. But for the grace of God there go I. I don't know that I would have fared as well as he did. Power does strange things even to the best of people, does it not?

Yes, the end of the story was really in Elvis' own hands. He made the choices. And in ways, it was as though he wanted to die. Was he tired? Was he disillusioned? Was he out of control? Was he still a little boy struggling to find his way to manhood? Was he still not settled from the loss of his beloved mother? Was his prestige too high a price to pay? Yes, I would think to all of the above.

What did he leave behind? Distraught fans. A legacy of music. History made time and time again. Bu mostly, I think, the greatest loss was leaving a lost, forlorn, and confused little girl, his precious Lisa Marie, to unravel the drama that had been played out before her.

Yet, Another King in my Life Tragically Dies
In that, I am reminded of my own loss as a young girl. My daddy's sudden death. I'm reminded as well that I, Ellen Marie, as well as Lisa Marie was a "Daddy's little girl". While my pain was not the same as Lisa Marie's, I do understand not being able to get my mind, my arms around my daddy being gone, not for a day, but forever. I do relate to Lisa Marie's odd behavior, her moodiness, her rebellion, her sad eyes. I do.

Death is a strange thing. We all have to do it. It is as much a part of life as birth is. Yet, it takes us deeper into our souls than anything we can experience. We don't like it. We don't talk about it. We run from it. Yet, it meets us everyday in some measure. Will we ever grow to embrace it?

It's been many years since that cold day in February of 1966, when I lost my daddy. But it's as if it were just moments ago. Daddy died. He left this earth. He left me. Without warning. Yet, what I grew to discover is that everything he ever taught me still remained. I could choose to trace his heart in my life. I could choose to allow his life to live on through me and my children. I think that is when life truly begins.

PHOTO: King Daddy and Ellen Marie when she was about three years old!Copyright © 2008 by Write Memories 4 Life. All rights reserved.

Elvis, Are You Still Out There?

2009-01-08T23:24:00.002-06:00

Can't pass the day up without saying "Happy Birthday" to the King. The king of rock, that is. If he's still out there, of course! Oh my.

Thought I'd add the video of Elvis and Lisa Marie singing together. Hey, that MUST mean he's still alive. I really need to get out more. Anyway, Elvis was a complicated man. Lisa Marie is a complicated young woman. Would we be so different if our lives had walked their shoes? For sure, looking at his life/untimely death speaks boldly. Boldly on taking responsibility. What happens when you do and when you don't.

Yes, much was placed on him with no one strong enough to know how to help him. But as Priscilla stated in her recent doc of Elvis, ultimately he needed to be the one to make the decision to get his life in order. And unfortunately, he didn't. And everyone suffered the loss.

What will our life look like to those we left behind when we cross over?

Enjoy this touching video. First, you'll want to scroll to the bottom of the page and turn off my PlayList. (Clk the left upper icon)

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Finding The Gold, My Auto 4 The Month

2009-01-08T19:58:00.005-06:00

All The Gold In California by Larry Gatlin. This book is my pic of the week. Yes, I've always loved his music, but I knew little about the man behind it. A rude awakening awaited me.

Liking something about someone probably encourages us to read about them even when we may not agree with their lifestyle. For sure, we can learn from anyone, whether to be more like they are or more NOT like they are.

In Larry's case, I found him to be genuinely honest about his steamy lifestyle as a performing artist. It made him real to the reader. No pretenses.

NOTE: He left out any thing that would be offensive to his beloved wife of umpteen years. By that I mean, he never mentioned any juicy news about some sordid affair he had. I've heard he had them, but if he did, he decidedly left out the details. I didn't' get the sense that he was trying to hide anything, but that it was out of respect to his wife. That was my take. You may have a different one. But having read who he was and who he came to be gave me the sense that indeed he loves his wife.

Yet, he was brutally and painfully honest about his drug addictions. He was just as revealing when sharing the disturbing challenges he had with his fans. Or should I say, the lack thereof. Fans, that is. I guess I never knew there was a deficit. After all, I had been a fan and didn't know there was a reason not to be one!

Then there was his refusal to "separate" from his brothers; it cost him. But to him the greater cost would have been to have left them behind. He believed in them. And it mattered not what the industry tried to convince him.

He concluded that his autobiography could have been much longer than the published copy. I would have been glad to have read the much more! Now that's a good story teller, one that makes you not want their story to end.

Hats off to you, Larry, wherever you are! May you continue to find peace in your life.

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Let's Begin Again in 2009

2009-01-01T13:45:00.002-06:00

Blessings in the New Year 2009. Hope to see you soon with many new memories to share for the last and new year. Get your pens and paper or computer ready!!!!

Begin with what was your most life changing event of 2008 and how will it cause you to do something different in 2009? Think about it!!!!

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Christmas Memories

2008-12-18T21:25:00.005-06:00

OK, so I have been making way too many holidays memories. This is my fav time of year. So I spend most of my time savoring every moment.

Speaking of fav time. I wrote a Christmas letter this year for my sweet little mama, only it wasn't much of a letter. I decided to do something a little different. I remembered how she used to play on the piano A Few Of My Favorite Things from The Sound Of Music. So I wrote a list of "her" fav Christmas things.

Example: Mom's Fav Christmas Story, Song, Decoration, Santa Memory, Gift Memory, Best and Worst Memory, Things To Do, Candy, Food, etc.. It was fun and I know her family and friends will enjoy reading it.

You might want to try that for a loved one who, like my mama can't write much anymore. Or write about your favorite things and share them as a gift to your family. Ask them to write theirs as well. It can be entertaining as well as informative! Fun Times!

Too, please forgive me for not being on the site of late. I've been writing non-stop, just not here.

I should be up and running again after the first of the year. And hopefully, some in between.

Thanks for your emails and support. Keep them coming.

Wishing you the best Christmas Memory ever. Just make sure you give it a line or two in your spare time!

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Memories To Be Thankful For

2008-11-27T10:26:00.003-06:00

I hope you have a day of giving thanks for all of your wonderful and colorful memories you have written about over the past year.

I am delightfully thankful for your contribution to the blogsites over the last few months.

Much has been going on in my household. Children in college, a mom with many needs, grandchildren to see and enjoy, and life with its surprises.

I'm enjoying them all.

I have taken a break from the blogsite as you know. But my memories continue and I hope yours have too!

Get out your pen today and write a page or two about the love you felt today. If you didn't, then write your feelings about what was difficult and what you did to make it better.

See you soon!

Falling Into Autumn!

2008-10-31T17:42:00.003-05:00

Wishing you a wonderful Fall Festival Day!!!!!

Writing In Animal!

2008-10-11T15:23:00.004-05:00

This week's homework:
Write about an animal. No, not your husband!

Seriously, most of us had some kind of pet growing up. If not, perhaps you had an experience with a friend's or neighbor's pet. The encounter may not have been the most pleasurable or it may have been one you would love to repeat.

I have a few tails, I mean tales to tell about animals in my life.

Of The Feline Nature

My parents didn't believe in animals being in the house, so I kept my kitty cats in the wild. They roamed the neighborhoods near and far. But they always returned to check in on me or the latest squirrel. My fav was Snowball. And Blackie, who was an untamed wild raging Tom Cat. Snowball, on the other hand hung close to home. They were brother and sister, but they never mentioned the connection. When my parents weren't home, I'd sneak Snowball in the house. Blackie wouldn't hear of it.

Then there was Mama Cat. She populated the neighborhood. Poor thing. Once my neighbor, who was deathly afraid of cats begged me to help him take Mama Cat off to populate some other territory.

I don't know what he said to convince me, but I finally agreed. So off we went in his Volkswagen Bug with Mama in the back, screeching and clawing the heck out of me. WE took her miles and miles across town. I remember thinking what had I got her into? When we arrived at the destination of his choice, he grabbed her and dumped her out of the car. And as if to confuse her, he spun the car around and around in circles. Then with terror on her face (and probably mine), he lit out of there like a bat outta ...well, you know where.

The most amazing thing happened. I prayed for forgiveness. Well, really the most astounding thing was that about a month later, I thought I heard a cat purring outside. I ran to the back door, only to find a weary worn cat with greying hair patiently, yet mournfully waiting for me to bring her a morsel of food. Our eyes met. My heart lept. Could this be? As she nuzzled up against my legs and purred, the answer quickly filled my spirit. Mama Cat! She came back! But more than anything, she forgave me! And she NEVER had to worry about my loyalty again. I took care of her from that day until she took her last breath!

OK, OK, so maybe I sound a little gooey. That's OK. I figure I'm allowed "goo" once a month!

Now this story was not to out do my animal break-down. Yes, I had a break-down...well, my resistance to dander! Here's the scoop:

The Night I Slept With Gomer
I went to a sleep-over party at a friend's house in the 7th grade. Are you ready for the confession? I slept with Gomer Pyle. Can you believe it? Probably not. Besides, you say, he was too old for me, not including the rumor that he was gay. Well, I don't know about any of that, but I can attest that he was a great bed partner!

OH my. Look folks, "he" was Siamese. Cat. I know, I know, who would name a cat Gomer Pyle? Vickie, my friend!

On with the story. I was more than happy to have him curl right up by my face and go to sleep with me. Only thing was the next morning when I woke up, I couldn't see. Or so I thought. Remember, I was just a child. I thought I'd gone blind. I was freaking out. Literally, I could NOT see. Did I mention that my eyes were swollen shut?

"Uh, Ellen, that might have something to do with your sudden blindness!" seemed to be coming out of the corners of my over excited little head.

Bottom line, according to the doc, was sleeping with Gomer did me in once and for all. He broke my resistance down, and I would suffer with cat allergies to even this day!!!

So I went from being a kitty lover to admiring their graceful qualities at a safe distance.

Both of my children have the same allergy. Hummm. Did sleeping with Gomer cause them to suffer as well? Well, you know they say the sins of the fathers will pass on into other generations! Oh well, Gomer was still worth it! Don't tell my kids!

Of Dogline Nature!
While I have many other stories, I think one of my fav is about a German Shepard POLICE Dog.
Police would be the operative word. I didn't give it much thought, at the time. Again, I was just a child. Well, in this case, I was about 19.

I had gone to pay my insurance. The agent was ahead of the times as he worked out of his house. No problem. I got out of the car, walked toward the house, when out of nowhere came a jet of fur. Attached to it were, snarling teeth. Not a good mix. At least not if you don't know much about doggies. He was for sure no Gomer Pyle. Sergeant Carter, yes!!!!

So I considered my options. And realized, I didn't have but one, or so it seemed. I froze in my tracks. And he made sure of it as he encircled me, daring me to step near his well drawn out territory.

I looked back over my shoulder at my attentive audience in hope to be rescued. They were in the car. You see my husband's aunt, her child, my child, and a dear grandma were frozen as well. I knew by the terror on their faces as they pressed them against the windows, I was in more trouble than I bargained for. And all because I was paying a bill? Would my insurance cover this possibly tragedy?

Regardless, I couldn't filter through the blaring sirens going off in my head. I think I had an out of body experience! Amazing what our minds will do in a moment of terror.

And just as suddenly as it all began, it came to a close...with "doggie" fangs wrapped around my thigh. If you have never been attacked by a mouth full of pointy teeth, be ever thankful. To this day, I can still feel his teeth puncturing through my corduroy jeans.

I thought it was over, when I heard my insurance guy screaming, "Jack, back off, NOW!!!!!! NOW, Jack. NOW!!!!" Suddenly, Jack the ripper, turned into a soft spoken pup. He whimpered away to the back yard.

The insurance guy, standing on his porch, with phone dangling, sorrowfully said, "Ellen, did he just attack you? Are you OK?" All I remember is everything was spinning around me. I didn't move an inch. He politely came to me and retrieved the check.

Yet, there was no consolation in that fear drenched moment. It was all I could do to make my way back to the car where the drama continued. My family couldn't get me in the car fast enough, checking me out from head to toe. I never spoke a word. Maybe it's called shock!

I can't tell you much more except that I NEVER went back to make another payment at any one's house again! And that I lost a good pair of jeans! But I got to keep my leg!

By the way, not long after, Jack broke his chain once again, only this time he was the one standing at death's door. And he walked through it. A car ran over him. Truth is, Jack was only doing what he had been taught. To protect his master's territory. Evidently, he didn't get the memo that day.

NOTE: This might be an example of a draft!

Waking Up And Clearing Away Writers' Block

2008-09-22T19:15:00.010-05:00

Research says our mind thinks more clearly, and we are happier people when we meditate. Meditate on what? You decide.

Which triggers my memory about a story... What, are you surprised?!

Once while I was in Barnes and Nobles with my mom and young son, we passed by a lady comfortably snuggled up in a cozy chair with her eyes closed. Mom being the no-nonsense person said, "Why is she sleeping here? She NEEDS to go home and do her sleeping!"

Oh my. I told Mom she shouldn't say things like that out loud, as we continued on down the aisle. Without acknowledging my sentiments, Mom took a turn to the mystery section. My son and I pressed on to the "sale" tables.

In the distance, I kept hearing, "Ma'am, Ma'am. Uh ma'am. Excuse me. Ma'am, Ma'am. EXCUSE ME...EXCUSE ME, MA"AM!!!!" Realizing someone with an urgency to get my attention was on my tail, I halted my steps and turned to see who could possibly need me with such persistency.

Uh huh, you got it. It was Sleeping Beauty. And she was clearly not happy that she had been awakened by something besides a kiss.

I said, "Yes?"

"Excuse me, I just want you to know I was NOT sleeping."

"Well, I didn't say you were."

"WELL, for your information, I had my eyes closed because I was meditating."

"Like I said, Miss, I wasn't the one who said you were sleeping."

"I heard you. And I want you to know that I was meditating because my husband just left me, and I was meditating to send him messages to come back home to me."

"OOOK. Whatever you say ma'am."

Realizing she had purpose behind those closed eye-lids, who was I to argue? Who was I to convince her I did not speak ill of her behavior? She obviously wasn't in the mood to step outside of her box, but yet she wanted me to step out of mine.

For sure, it was probably an opportunity for me to exercise my counseling skills, but I just wasn't in the mood. I was only interested in finding the person who got me into this mess. Yes, sweet little Mama!

I chased up and down aisles, only to find her nestled away in some cranny with her nose stuck in a good read. I promptly told her what happened to which all I got was her trademark giggle. How do you argue with that? humph. Clearly Mom was not going to join the dance with me. So I gave it up. I went on about my shopping staying clear of anyone who even remotely looked like they might be thinking about nodding off while reading their book!

Well, there you have a life story. Amazing how one word can evoke emotions and memories, don't you think?

But really, my original point was that meditating has proven to help us feel better about ourselves and life. Your chosen method to meditate is up to you. I'm not certain I believe it will bring back your runaway spouse, but for sure it will energize your thought processes. Which in turn will clear your mind. And therein is a fertile place to pen a story.

So take some time out today and meditate on a Scripture verse, a prayer, a favorite proverb or saying, or how about a warm memory. And see if it clears your road-block down Writer's Lane.

Copyright © 2008 by Write Memories 4 Life. All rights reserved.

Your View On 9/11

2008-09-11T15:02:00.002-05:00

Take time today to reflect on the historical event of 9/11.

Where were you?
Who were you with?
What was their reaction?
What were you doing?
What were your thoughts as you saw our country being attacked?
How did you feel about our vulnerability as a nation?
Do you have any political views on the matter?
Could it have been prevented? Not?
What do you think our country learned from the tragic event?
What did you learn?
What words of wisdom might you have to share with future generations on this subject?

Now take those thoughts and put them to paper or on an audio! Why don't you add some photos from the event to add flavor to your work?

The Amazing, Jackie Chan

2008-09-09T13:30:00.007-05:00

Jackie Chan, Author and Autobio of the Week! Reading his book has truly been an inspiration. He digs deep into the soul of a matter while finding humor along the way. A nice blend.

If you want to know more about what makes Jackie tirelessly weather through scene after scene without doubles in his movies, this is the book for you.

He takes the reader back to his childhood when he suffered much emotionally, mentally, and physically. Yet, he quickly brings into focus the value of these involuntary chapters of his life.

I might be "reading" him the wrong way, but it seems to me that he's someone I would enjoy sharing a moment with. He exudes the passion of life.

TITLE: I Am Jackie Chan You can purchase it at Amazon, Half Price Books, or ck it out at your local library!

PHOTO: Download from Jackie's website. By the way, there are some fun photos awaiting you there!

The View... From YOUR Perspective

2008-09-08T17:11:00.011-05:00

Write about the events of the day. Current affairs. Historical events. Example? How about the fact that we are facing changing times in our nation come November 4, 2008. We will either have our first lady vice-president or our first African-American president.

Write a story about your view on this grand occasion. It's a perfect time to share your thoughts for others to gather around and discuss. Dangerous, you say? Perhaps, but think of the interesting conversation it may evoke at your next family gathering. Oh my. I'd love to be there!

NOTE: Are wondering why I included an xtra shot of Sarah? Answer: I've decided on the person I'll be voting for this fall. I'm voting for that guy on the FAR TOP LEFT corner! He's cute, and I hear he's great with kids. I believe his name is Todd. No worries, my hubby knows.

PHOTOS: GOOGLE
Copyright © 2008 by Ellen M. Samples. All rights reserved.

Memorial Day Thought

2008-09-01T12:47:00.002-05:00

Reflect. What runs through your mind? Write it down. Savor it. Bring it all together for a story.

Down Home Author Cooks Up A Book!

2008-08-30T18:28:00.013-05:00

This book and author are on my fav list. And it's not just because the author is my dearest sis-in-law of a lot of years...like over 30! Charity Faye.

The title of her book as you may see is
Apples, Pumpkin, Popcorn, and Peanut Butter... And Other Fall Favorites From Aunt Charity's Big House On The Prairie.
I believe this was written around 1991.

The introduction page began with Charity writing that I (Ellen) saw where someone had written stories with their recipes as a backdrop. And since she had a love for cookin' out on the KS Prairie, why didn't she put her hand to the pen to the paper?

Soon thereafter she and her daughter, Becki, came down to visit. Along with them came this lovely book filled with family recipes, each draped with a story. How I loved it. And I've used it in some capacity ever since. Whether in the days gone by when I was in craft shows across the DFW area or in the last 10 years in my writing workshop.

Here's a sample of its contents:

Grandma's Corn Bread

Grandma didn't cook by measurements, so I had to hold the measuring cup under the flour sifter while she helped me get this recipe!

(I'll leave the recipe out. Email me if you would like to have it! It does look yummmy!)

Charity concluded with...

The first time I took Charles to "meet the family", we went to Grandma's house for the big family Christmas dinner. The table truly groaned under the bountiful variety of holiday fare. Charles ate a slice of ham and Grandma's corn bread with a glass of milk. He was happy, and I was in shock! Grandma said, "You leave him alone! He's got just what he wants." We have been married 22 years and Charles is still delighted with "just corn bread and milk." He tells me it's almost as good as Grandma's.

Well, Charles and Charity have been married a few more years since then, and he's still munching down on cornbread and milk. Now I bet Charles would tell you that Charity's cornbread is indeed better than Grandma's.

But isn't this a novel way of writing your life story? Cooking could be the theme of your autobiography! Now, I'm not suggesting this for people who do not like to cook. However, it's always fun to write at least one of your stories centered around a recipe or family meal.

I don't know about you, but this has inspired me to write a few more stories of my own around a great meal. This makes me hungry. See you at the table!

PHOTO: Picture of book at top, and picture of "Aunt Charity" in her mom's kitchen, where many a meal was shared and devoured, I might add!
Copyright © 2008 by Write Memories 4 Life. All rights reserved.

Check Out This Author!

2008-08-24T12:21:00.004-05:00

The newest edition to the blog: highlighting a different author a couple of times a month. What do you think? I knew you would agree.

What better way to launch this new feature than to begin with a friend. Donalyn Powell Parker. Just recently I was afforded the opportunity to spend personal time with Donalyn in her Southern Living home!
And what a beautiful home. With a beautiful family.

How did we meet? Our parents were friends forever ago. Say 50 plus years. Wow! My dad was their pastor and friend. Donalyn and I met for the first time just weeks ago. What a pleasure and blessing. It took us forever to find out about each other, but once we did, we immediately connected. First via email, then in person.

She might tell you that I had plenty of questions about how she got into writing. I love details, and I couldn't get enough from her. I could have listened for hours. She was very gracious in sharing how she came to be a published author. Quite an amazing story, I might add. I loved every minute of it. The only downside was that we didn't have more time.

I was fascinated to find that she didn't start out as an aspiring writer. Amazing. She just felt God leading her to "write", and she obeyed. In no time she was published. Did I say amazing?

Her books are mainly non-fiction. They have reached and brought healing to many.

Her newest adventure is writing fiction. She allowed me to take a peek behind the scenes of the draft. I didn't want to quit reading! I think you'll love what's ahead. I'll keep you posted.

When you get a chance, check out her website. You'll be pleased to find that not only is Donalyn a writer, and speaker, but also an artist. Go to the products page for more details. I love her greeting cards. She's left the inside blank so you can pen your own thoughts. I like that.

Looking behind the eyes of published authors can often give us fresh ideas on how to add punch to our writing skills. We need all the help we can get, right?

PHOTO: Taken from http://www.donalynparker.com/

Copyright © 2008 by Ellen M. Samples. All rights reserved.

Take This Book 4 the Wk of 8/17

2008-08-19T11:51:00.007-05:00

My ever faithful friend, Charl, once again sent me an email about a book that I can't pass up sharing with you. This book is based on fiction. As you know, my focus is usually non-fiction. However, every now and again fiction finds it's way to our site and for good reason. What reason? We all need a time of refreshment via pleasure reading.

Too, let me say, you should take a little trip over to Lynn's site. I enjoyed what she had to share about writing. I plan to use some of her thoughts in my next writing workshop. Hope to see you there!

Here you go.....

I'm reading a great Christian fiction book..author is Lynn Austin.... A Woman's Place..highly recommend for your website..2 people told me about it..one couldn't put it down..the other was lookin' for it at Half Price..i got one from my library..I put a hold on one of her other books about generations of women..Eve's Daughters...for your book website !!!!!
check her out on website....XOXOXO

http://www.lynnaustin.org/

Thanks, Charl!!!!! Keep them coming!

Copyright © 2008 by Ellen M. Samples. All rights reserved.

Take This Book 4 the Wk of 8/3

2008-08-02T16:01:00.008-05:00

The Lion of Wall Street by Jack Dreyfus is a fascinating read. He is a fascinating man. I found his auto quite a few years back and began to use it in my workshop. I use it every semester as a tool when we are discussing possible ways to begin our stories.

For sure, Jack's is one of the most creative I've come across. I have read it over and over, and never tire of looking forward to reading it again. Try it, you might like it!

Cover of Book: http://www.amazon.com/ Purchase it there!
Copyright © 2008 by Ellen M. Samples. All rights reserved.

Take This Book 4 the Wks of 7/27-8/3

2008-07-31T15:42:00.008-05:00

The following was sent to me from a close friend and avid reader. I thought it would be a great book to recommend even though I have not read it. However, I have been reading articles about Mr. Pausch. Maybe you have, too. Regardless, this is a good one to check out at your local library. Or go to Half Price Books or Amazon. Too, maybe borrow it from a friend!

Here's what my friend Charl shared:
I bought a copy of the Last Lecture at Half Price yesterday by Randy Pausch..47 yr old who died last week. I'm sure u have heard or read on Internet about him..his life left to live out his dreams..for his children..his wonderful attitude. My friend and I are considering reading it and writing insights for our g/children from the chapters.

PHOTO: Amazon.com
Also, when you go to www.amazon.com and look up the book, they have a video of Randy for you to view. Great stuff. Go take a look and live life more fully like my friend, Charl, inspires me to do.

When And How Should We Write Our Stories?

2008-07-27T18:13:00.008-05:00

When Should We Write Our Stories?

In our six-week life story workshop, we begin at the beginning when telling our stories. Is there a better place? Or is there a right place to begin? Yes. With a pen, keyboard, audio or video taping in hand. Just begin. Now. Or sometime near after!

How Should We Write Our Stories?

Most people write their autobiographies chronologically. They find it to be less taxing.
Too, consider writing chronologically and then add some flavor to your introduction. Jack Dreyfus, well known successful business man, opened his auto by taking us into Heaven. Imagine. His mother had passed away before he became famous. He took the opportunity to use his life story to express what he thought his mom might say upon learning of his successes. I always read the first chapter to my class. What a fun and imaginative read. It gets us out of our boxes and into the world of possibilities of sharing our stories in a fun and lighthearted way.
Many authors begin in the present and then trail off into their pasts unveiling how they got to where they are today.
Others start somewhere mid-way and jump into the past, then tie it all together while bringing the reader into the present. Examples: Goldie Hawn. Tom Laundry.
Vignettes. Simple stories about certain significant events in life.
Poetry. I've had poets in almost all of my workshops who used the genre to tell their story.
Thematic. If you feel your life has had a particular theme, consider carrying it throughout your stories.
Life-At-A-Glance. This would be an overview of your life. Some people write 5-10 stories and for them it's sufficient to describe their lives.

What should YOU do? Explore what works best for you, while not ruling out the creative possibilities.

Copyright © 2008 by Ellen M. Samples. All rights reserved.

Take This Book 4 the Wk of 7/20--How To Read A Book

2008-07-21T17:08:00.012-05:00

On our writing journey, we read many books. Usually. Hopefully. We need to be, if we want to broaden our own range of writing skills.

However, the reading book population may be on a downswing. When asked about the new Amazon Kindle product, Steve Jobs CEO of Apple computer had this to say:

“It doesn’t matter how good or bad the product is, the fact is that people don’t read anymore,” he said. “Forty percent of the people in the U.S. read one book or less last year. The whole conception is flawed at the top because people don’t read anymore.”

Yet we know people are reading. But what? Blogs? Text messages? Websites? Emails? Knols. All of the above and more. The challenge is to read more. And certainly more than one book a year.

For those of us who will starve before we give up reading hard-copy books, do we know how to really read a book? A crazy question? NOT.

I first heard about a book, written in 1940, called How To Read A Book from the Rev. Billy Graham. For sure, he doesn't lie. So I checked it out! And it has been on my fav book list since. I invite all the students in my writing workshop to add this book to their library.

A Few Highlights:
Over 300 year ago, Pascal observed, When we read too fast or too slowly, we understand nothing. Okay, so does it take a rocket scientist to figure that out? I think not. But we should consider these wise but simple words. And find ways to better improve our comprehension coupled with reading at a glance.

In this 21st century, reading faster has become a necessity if we want to keep up with the inundation of information thrown at us via technology. The days of just books, newspapers, and a few magazines are vanishing.

So while we take a greater look at how to read a book, this challenge does transcend into the world of reading technology. And please don't consider for a nano-second that tech is going to slow down. Quite the contrary.

For sure, I want to absorb what I read. I don't want a rote gathering of info just to get me by or to say that I read a particular piece of work.

We read for information, understanding, and entertainment. The last of these is the least taxing on our minds.

For me information and understanding are critical for my well being! I thrive on non-fiction and always have. I do recognize Fluffy reading is important for chilling out in this margin-to-margin world. I need more of it in my diet.

Yet, informative and understanding reading can be relaxing as well.

But to read everything at the Fluff level leaves much to be desired by the brain.

To read what we already know does not add to our abilities to grow intellectually. Rather to read the work of an author who is far beyond where we are presents a grand opportunity to evolve. And don't be threatened by that word. Our minds are building blocks. Layer upon layer we learn. Unless we choose otherwise.

Communication between unequals is to be desired or how else can one person learn from another person (Adler, and Van Doren)?

There are four levels of reading:

Elementary Reading. Simple enough? See Jane and Spot run. Sight reading. That is how I learned. Some of us were fortunate to learn phonics as well. They are both great tools to learn to read at this first level.

Inspectional Reading: Which can be labeled as skimming. This type is based on time. Limited. You want to fly through this blog to get onto the next event of the day. So you skim. But, still you gain. You're quickly hoping to absorb AMAP-as much as possible.

Analytical Reading: You want the deepest and your time frame is not under pressure. You want to understand. It's intensive. The work becomes his own. He grasps it. He wears it. He lives it.

Syntopical Reading: The highest level. You begin to read not one, but many authors or books on a subject. Your goal is to gather and define and know beyond measure. I would say this would fit into the R&D category. Research and Development.

All of these may or may not blend together at some point and time. They are all applicable to our development mentally, emotionally, spiritually, as well as physically.

Having said all that, let's take a look at how to know you even want to read a book. Adler and Van Doren suggest we need to think like a detective. So Get Smart, Agent 99.

Be A Book DETECTIVE:

Take A Look At The Table Of Contents:

Would you not want the ingredients of an unfamiliar recipe? I hope so. Think of the TOC as those needed ingredients you must have for that desired seven-course meal you want to make. Most often, you will find a plethora of delicious food just sitting there waiting to be eaten. From that very table setting, you may change your mind about even taking your first bite into the book in question.

Too, you will gain a sense of the book's structure as well the adventure you are about to encounter. Always read the TOC.

Take a Deeper Look Into The Heart Of The Index:

The index is a good place to rest a spell. You will find a well of info in certain books nestled in those last few pages. Too often the index is overlooked when it probably has

Dust Over the Jacket:
Always read the dust jacket (or back of the book). To keep the dust off? Sure, but while you are doing that, take a peek at the publisher's thoughts. It may be full of fluff, to which you will notice immediately. However, often the author has helped create this great marketing tool. So you might get a better idea what the main points are that she is wanting to bring to the table. Then you may get a clearer image if this is the read for you at this time.

Skim The Inside, Not Just The Surface:
Skim the inside of the book. Scan over the words and paragraphs. See if there is anything that jumps out at you, good or bad. I can think of a biography I read, that had I scanned the pages, I might have changed my mind. The vulgarity was bumper-to-bumper. The writer felt the need to give notice to every curse word the person ever said. As the reader, I wanted more substance on the life of the person, not that single habit.

To Read Or Not To Read?
The bottom line is do you want to spend your valuable time with the author, the book? How does it fit into your life at this time? Will it be productive? Would another time be better to engage with the book? If so, put it on your Going To Read list. If now is the moment, jump in and enjoy every second of the ride; I guarantee great gas mileage.

Photo: http://www.amazon.com/ Purchase How To Read A Book and look at the TOC as well!
Copyright © 2008 by Ellen M. Samples. All rights reserved.

Writing 4 Medicine

2008-07-16T11:51:00.017-05:00

The Brain Injury Association of NY State's director of traumatic-brain-injury rehab has something to say about telling your story. As part of their protocol, one of the first things used in their patients' recovery is to get them to tell a story. A story of the events in their life. The names. The faces. After all, our stories are probably the most valuable piece of info we carry in our minds. It's who we are.

Abigail Thomas, writer and speaker, recalls her husband's thoughts on his loss of memory after being hit by a car. Rich describes it:

Pretend you are walking up the street with your friend. You are looking in windows. But right behind you is a man with a huge paint roller with white paint and he is painting over everywhere you've been, erasing everything. He erases your friend. You don't even remember his name.

This is similar to what some stroke survivors experience. One minute they are one person, the very next minute they don't even recognize who they are. By the way, too often, people think strokes are a malfunction of the heart. Strokes manifest from the brain.

And even with Alzheimer's patients, one of the best meds for them is getting them to tell their life stories, no matter how jumbled they may be. Research has proven it can improve quality of life.

The bottom line is our stories are marrow to our very bones. They give us life. So why wouldn't we express them? As you know, too often we think they are not important. We think no one would want to hear them. We think we'll tell them another day. Or we don't know where to begin. We are afraid of writing, of not telling it right. We think. We think. We think. Quit!

All of these obstacles make sense to us while we are in that mode; The real truth is our stories hold great value to all around us. And if we can communicate, we are capable of getting our stories on paper, audio, or video. No more excuses, folks.

If you receive AARP, check out Ms. Thomas' writing article in the July/Aug '08 issue.
She gives some great ideas on writing your stories. One point she made jumped off the page:

Memoir is not a place to get revenge or to appear angelic or to cast oneself as a victim. If that's on your mind, write fiction. Memoir should not be self-serving, even accidentally. If you come out as anything but profoundly human, you've probably got the wrong motives for your writing or you haven't stood far enough back or come close enough.
After all, we are full of contradiction and conflict; we have evolved out of many different selves. We have been thanked, we have been humiliated, we have gossiped and worried and gone to bed hungry for one thing or another. We have gone out on the limb, and we have stayed on the porch.

This is what we often talk about in the writing workshop. We want our stories to be real. We R Not fabrications! Therein is a balance that will bring hope and inspiration to those who become our audience.

You may never get hit by a car, never have a stroke, or invaded by Alzheimers; but your life can be painted over and erased. Simply by not believing that your life has something to say. Don't let the busyness of life, or lack of belief, rob you of your memories.

RESOURCES: http://www.bianys.org/, Parade 7/13/08, Photo from http://www.cwhisna.blogspot.com/, interview with stroke survivors 2008.

Take This Story 4 the week of 7/13

2008-07-14T21:31:00.010-05:00

Up From Slavery by Booker T. Washington is a fascinating travel through the eyes of Booker T. as a boy, as a slave, as a free man, and most of all a man.

Seldom does a book keep me spellbound. This one took me there and back. I would read it all over again.

For sure this book became my friend. As did Mr. Washington. He is one person I would love to sit down and have a conversation with over a cold glass of lemonade.

While this was written many years ago, its every word rings true in the 21st Century. He was indeed a visionary, a believer that things can and do change. He believed in the possibility of people being those change agents. And he was one.

I highly recommend this on your journey while reading about American history.

Published first: 1901 with Doubleday
My copy is from Random House 1993 (232 pp)

NOTE: The photo is from Amazon.com

Copyright © 2008 by Ellen M. Samples. All rights reserved.

Take This Story, Launches

2008-07-06T13:43:00.010-05:00

If you notice, I have added a bookshelf on http://www.thewriteplacejust4u.com/ . It's on the left
side-bar. You are only one click away from taking a peek. Check it out!

I will be highlighting an author and book every week on this site called Take This Story. Most of the time it will be an autobiography or biography.

Please know that there will be times you may wonder why I recommended a certain book. All of life surrounds us with people and things we don't agree with, but that doesn't stop us from learning. Recommending doesn't always mean endorsing a lifestyle or a belief system. Hope you enjoy, so stay tuned.

This week I want to introduce you to Goldie Hawn, as if you didn't already know who this gal is. We remember her well from Laugh In. She was quite an airhead. In real life? NOT.

She is a brilliant woman. I saw her in person less than a year ago. She is still quite the looker. Beautiful. Unique. She is naturally gifted with humor. Yet, she is able to blend it with the serious side of life. Now that makes for a great speaker. I could have listened to her for hours.

The title of her autobiography is Goldie a lotus grows in the mud . A thought provoking title, wouldn't you say? Remember, we love catchy titles. There are great photo shots sprinkled throughout her story. And her sense of humor dances from beginning to end. Don't let that fool you. Goldie doesn't hold back. She shares her soul with the reader. I think you will come away refreshed and with a different view of this timeless lady.

Check it out at your local library. If you go to the D'ville library, I'm sure Mary Ellen will be glad to help you! Tell her I sent you.

Or if you want it for keeps, like I do, go to http://www.amazon.com/. Also you might want to check it out at Half Price Books.

Written: 2005
465 Pages
Putnam Publishers

Parading on the 4th of July

2008-07-04T14:56:00.003-05:00

Hope to see some of you at the parade this morning. I'm so excited to be a part of such a grand event. And to boot, I get to show off Ms Classic. What a memory for me. I have never been IN a parade before, so this is a going to rank high in my life book.

My husband has been in numerous parades; he played in the band. He quickly let me know it wasn't the most exciting activity, considering he had to carry a tuba and dance around horse do- da. In Texas heat, no less.

I think I got the message:

He had much rather been cruisin' through town in a convertible showing off the town's beauty queen!

Copyright © 2008 by Ellen M. Samples. All rights reserved.

Words Without Meaning

2008-07-02T16:01:00.006-05:00

This week in class we talked about family sayings as well as words that no longer have meaning. Well, they do, it's just that they don't. At least not to some people. Now I know that made complete sense.

Here are some examples: Mary told us she mentioned to her grandchildren that she wore dungarees. Dunga what? Of course they didn't know what those were. Hello, would that be translated jeans?

And Pedal Pushers. Translate: Capris. Irene reminded us why they were called Pedal Pushers. When girls rode their bikes, it was difficult with dungarees on. So the great invention came to be. Pants that were usually at mid-calf. I used to call them Knee-Knockers, but then those would be at the knee. Oh no, not more confusion.

A friend questioned me recently on an article I had written on feet and shoes. In it I mentioned thongs. She laughed and said she could not figure how you wore thongs on your feet. She was thinking thongs as in underwear. What does she call them? Flip-flops.

In class we also noted the importance of including the meaning of these types of words in your stories. Why? So your younger audience will have a clue as to what in the world you mean. You may choose to put them in a foot note if not directly in your story. Your reader will thank you.

NOTE: For a bit of history behind Pedal Pushers/Capris check out http://www.wisegeek.com/what-are-pedal-pushers.htm and or click on both Pedal Pushers above and they will take you to two different sites.

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We have been busy in class compiling our stories of days gone by. Please stop by and join us on the web at www.thewriteplacejust4u.com

Hope to see you there!

Copyright © 2008 by Ellen M. Samples. All rights reserved.

Launching the First Stories

2008-06-25T15:02:00.004-05:00

Check out the workshop blogsite. I just posted the very first story from one of the charter members, Don. I promise you will enjoy what he had to share.

Copyright © 2008 by Ellen M. Samples. All rights reserved.

Up Close and Personal

2008-06-23T15:25:00.007-05:00

So where have I been? It looks like it's been five days since I've been on the site.

Not so, folks. Actually, I'm usually blogging away (I do have a more than too many blogsites to manage!) but many of those posts/articles are deeply embedded in my edit file. Some articles happen in a rapid succession of a few clicks on the laptop, while others hang out in the edit room, savoring.

And that room is no insignificant holding tank; it's where all the good stuff happens. Where the mega research lands, before it's launched before your eyes.

Off to the next flight!

Stay blogaware for the continuation of the foot series!

Copyright © 2008 by Ellen M. Samples. All rights reserved.

Beam me up, Scotty

2008-06-18T18:09:00.012-05:00

Captain Kirk has written an autobiography, Up Til Now. Can you believe he is 77 years young? Wow. Either he uses botox or all of his space travels served him well.

AKA known as William Shatner.

In a Dallas Morning News (6/14/08) article he says, This is a good opportunity to write something that was in effect a legacy for my children and grandchildren and to give them a taste of what my life was about.

Sounds like he's been to one of my workshops! I'd like to think.

He has written a few other books over the years. You might want to check those out as well.

I noticed one book written ABOUT him was titled, Dr. Quirk. hummm.

Copyright © 2008 by Ellen M. Samples. All rights reserved.

Summer Class of 2008

2008-06-18T15:55:00.004-05:00

Welcome Summer class of 2008. It was a treat to have three former students attending the workshop. I have not seen some of them in forever. Too, it was a delight to meet new friends. Thank you for sharing your stories so freely. I can't wait to see your life in print and in cyberspace.

Copyright © 2008 by Ellen M. Samples. All rights reserved.

2008-06-15T18:49:00.002-05:00

Happy Father's Day! Don't forget to make memories!

Promotion Day!

2008-06-13T17:34:00.006-05:00

I had a great time at Hopkins Senior Center on Wednesday visiting with old friends and making new ones. It was a privilege to be there and to promote the upcoming workshop.

Spaces are limited, so if you want to join us please give me a call.

Check the sidebar at the top for more info!

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Testimonials from Students

2008-06-10T14:47:00.003-05:00

You challenged us to try our wings with words.

The workshop helped me to express different aspects of my life; it was a healing process for me.

This class has given me the push I needed to get my stories written.

I enjoyed your ability to integrate unity, laughter, and vulnerability in every session.

I appreciated the uplifting spirit and the free expressions of everyone.

I enjoyed the interesting schemes presented to provoke thoughts of our own stories.

The casual way the class was conducted gave me the incentive to 'get started' writing.

Have You Had Your Therapy Today?

2008-06-10T13:02:00.006-05:00

No, I don't mean your coffee fix! But I do mean getting your paper and pen quotient in for the day. Remember writing has been found to be an excellent source for good mental health. And we can ALL sure use a heavy dose of that.

Writing can:

Improve your memory
Help you put things in perspective
Help you organize the chain of events
Keep your mind active
Lower your blood pressure
Bring a sense of accomplishment
Give you a dose of self esteem
Stimulate your brain
Give you a sense of hope
Help you through a difficult event
Be a help in working through depression
Be a means to better health
Provide an avenue to share with family and friends
Give you a voice!

Try it, you might like it.

Mona's 1000 Words

2008-05-30T16:26:00.009-05:00

Many people tell me they struggle with writing. But not just grammatically. In their attempt to see a story, their brain quickly fogs the screen. Maybe you can identify. I sure can. Even the greatest of authors experience what we call writer's block.

There are many ways we can upload our memories from the well kept files in our minds. Let's take a look at just a couple.

The previous post is a perfect example of how starting one story can springboard into another one. We discover this quickly in the workshop. And it's a wonderful find.

Listening to others tell their stories can be a catalyst as well. Without fail, this is where many a story is found. Yes, from the crevices of another person's story comes a memory you had not thought of in years.

Too. most of us can begin a simple story, and before we know it, we have belted out a 1000 words. In that case we can just paint a picture, right? (You can tell what song era I'm from; the 70s.) Consider the painting above. Tell me there isn't a good story behind that rendition of Mona.

Now That I Have The Words What Do I Do?
The truth is, numerous words are really not a bad thing; it's what we do with them that will affect the reader's interest. What to do? I challenge students to break down their indulgence into two or three stories. Now your writer's block is beginning to lift. You now have more stories than you have time to write. Ah, and it's much better for the audience.

Consider the audience. Yes, consider. Please. Think. No one wants to bog down in a plethora of words. In our educational studies, we have to read what we are assigned to cut the grade. Not so in reading a story. We want to bound off the pages with the writer into the world of someone else. So think of ways to invite your audience into your story, your life.

We may love our own boring details, and that's fine. However, we must determine our will to pen less and paint more. Paint with your heart's pen when writing. Think of it, a picture speaks without ever having said a word. As can your story.

Homework: Write a paragraph or two on what you think Mona is thinking in the above painting. No, not a 1000 words, please. But do paint as you write. Use your senses. Paint with your imagination. AND SEND ME A COPY!

Birthday Highs

2008-05-21T17:39:00.018-05:00

Happy Birthday to me!!!! Well, a few days ago (May 15). Don't ask me how old I am. I won't tell you. Well, maybe I will. But just don't ask. I wouldn't want you to experience rejection. For sure, don't ask my husband. He'll tell you in a heartbeat.

Last year (2008) he afforded me the opportunity to fly in a helicopter for the first time. Now that was something that took mucho nerve for me. You would think having flown and passing my FAA exam, I would be fearless. Not so. The culprit? For years I had nightmares about falling out of a helicopter (OK, get out your dream interpretation books).

So this was a big jump for me. A jump into the friendly skies of Dallas. Though that day they didn't seem so friendly; it was one bumpy ride.

To top it off, the copter was not as big as a Smart car (see photo on the left). You know the cars that get 60 miles to the gallon and you pay the higher price later. When you have to go see a chiropractor. Honestly, they don't even look as big as my grandkids riding Tonka Trucks!

This copter was a two-seater. If your bohiney was any wider than what would fit in a child's car seat, good luck.

Robinson-22 BETA II
So what was I to do? I mean the pressure was on. My royal blue chariot awaited me on the runway. Whirring eloquently in the wind. Beckoning me. How could I possibly resist? After all, it was free, just for me.

Free or not, I felt a price getting ready to be paid. And I didn't want it to be my life. But it was now or never. I decided that if was my time, I would go out making headlines. "Birthday Girl Flies To Heaven".

I was distracted when I heard, "Keep your head down, ma'am." Keep my head down? Huh? "The blades, ma'am." The blades? I don't think I want anymore explanation. Like I needed to know I could die before I even leave the ground. What was I thinking? What was my husband thinking? Maybe we shouldn't go there.

It was all or nothing. And I've rarely turned away a daring event staring me in the face. This was going to be no different. I could feel it coming on. That nerve thing; dopamine and serotonin.

I couldn't help but think about the time I went down an overflowing N.C. mountain river in a one man raft. Ah yes, when I didn't know how to swim. That's another story. I'm still here to tell about it, so I guess that means something. Courage or sheer stupidity? Maybe both.

Meanwhile, back at the airport, I ran to the copter, throwing all fears behind. For sure, I ducked my head. First things first.

My handsome pilot patiently awaited my tardy arrival. He greeted me with a cheery, "Hello birthday girl." Girl? He needs to get those goggles off.

With not a moment to spare or think, we were off. No way to go back now. I was holding on for life.

My first question? "You are so young, how long have you been flying this thing?"
"OH, I started about a month ago." was his tart response. Did he see my head jerk and my eyes nearly pop out of my head when he gave me that devilish grin? Comforting me, he admitted he was the lead pilot with many hours in his log book. Geeee, when did he start, when he was 10?

We rocked and rolled all through the blue skies of downtown Dallas (pic below). The winds were up, just my luck. I just kept thinking about being back home, nestled in the safety of my living room. Blowing out candles, or something with better safety features to celebrate.

A warm breeze suddenly trickled across my face. And I calmed down enough to notice just how beautiful it was up there in the open sky. Indeed, it was breath taking. In more ways than one!

While I can't say that I was fearless the rest of the way, that I didn't continue to hold on with a death grip, I did chill enough to enjoy the thrill of it.

Would I do it again? Not for another 29 years. That is how old I am, isn't it????
NOTE: the piston engine maximum speed is 110 mph and gets 10 gallons per hour!

Why Write Your Life Story?

2008-05-03T18:52:00.007-05:00

At the end of each workshop, the class completes a survey. Over the years, I have found it to be a great way to take a peek behind the eyes of the students. While the world around them changes as well as their lives, they come to one conclusion about why they write their stories:

1. It's surprisingly therapeutic for their health and wellness.

2. They begin writing their stories for others, but when it's all said and done, they discover that it's as much for themselves as anyone else.

In my research, I have found that there are usually four main reasons why people say they want to write their life story:

So their children and grandchildren will know about them more intimately.

So they can make sense of a loss such as divorce, adoption, death, separation, a home, church, etc. The list is endless. They often look for writing to become a journey and discovery that changes them.

So future generations will know what life was like in their day- - their life as a social history.

To share with others what they have learned from living.

What would be your reasons? Think about it!

Having Coffee On The Floor With Jesus

2008-04-29T11:56:00.014-05:00

I don't know if any of you watched American Idol the other night when Dolly Parton performed the song, Jesus is Holding Me Up. Interesting. It was strangely a night filled with Jesus. The featured upcoming group the Clark Brothers (or Band) sang in their raspy voices with a country bang of guitars and mandolins, This Little Light of Mine; ending with the phrase, Jesus is our mainline. Different.

Then a number of Dolly's songs that the Idol participants sang crooned out sentiments running deep of Jesus and God.

I chuckled when Dolly grinned and told Bryan Seacrest, "Well, I've got Jesus, and you've got Simon."

OK, so what's this have to do with GG? I guess I was just thinking how Jesus is WHO holds me up as I see Mom growing up in her senior years. Like this morning. We were sitting quietly reading the newspaper while munching on some tasty breakfast, when suddenly I heard a crash with a splash. Mom had knocked over her coffee. She has a habit of sitting it right on the edge of the table...not sure why...but it's her thing. While I have tried to help her to remember to not put it there, old habits take over and coffee spills. So the floor, walls, chairs, baseboards, were decorated in a rich chocolaty looking liquid. I grumbled to myself as I had just sat down and was enjoying my recently poured HOT coffee. I know I shouldn't have. Transparency here.

Anyway, I got up, ran over, got down on the floor to clean it up while she sat and watched. The coffee cup was broken. You might know it would be one of my favorite cups, but she liked the cup; so I always put her coffee in it.

I grumbled to myself over that....until I looked down at the cup and remembered why I loved the cup so much; it read:

"Rejoice for this is the day that the Lord has made."

And so I did.

Mom and The Mick!

2008-04-29T11:35:00.007-05:00

My dear brother, Charles, sent me an email for GG this morning. He attached this picture of none other than the great Mickey Mantle. For you baseball buffs, you might recognize this as his rookie card. Wouldn't you love to have your hands on such a treasure? For sure. As would my big brother.

Actually, Mickey was part of our lives back in the 60s. He was right there in the house with us. Imagine. He hung out with Charles on a regular basis. Charles humbly enjoyed showing him off to friends and family. And Mickey always acquiesced to the call, no matter the time or day. Amazing man, that guy. Well, at least in his younger years. He traveled with us near and far, no matter where we went. He even ended up moving with us after Daddy passed away. What a guy, I'm telling you. And he was consistent, never shifting from his position. Wow.

Then the tragedy came and Charles has never been the same since. Mickey left our lives forever. I know Charles probably should have had some kind of grief therapy for such a loss, but we just didn't know about those types of help back then.

The demise all started when Charles left for seminary in TX leaving Mic with us in Va.. Big mistake. Mickey didn't like that even though he had two lovely women taking care of him, or so Charles thought. I plead the fifth. Anyway, I was soooo young, what did I know about upcoming starts in baseball? And what about Mom? You'd have to ask her, but maybe you better not. I will attest that Mickey did try and tough it out. He was as always consistently quiet and still. What a guy. Did I say that before?

Then came ministry, marriage, and kiddos for Charles. Of course, Mickey no longer had a lot of any one's attention. He just sat there all by himself, well, sort of.

And I can't swear to when, but somewhere along the way, maybe in the 70s, Mickey found himself taken out of his comfortable resting place in our home. His new residence? Some prestigious place you might think considering how well he had done in the baseball industry. Nope. He was kicked to the curb without a thought. In the garbage. Yes, I said his new residence was in the garbage can out by the curb. And that dreaded fateful day he left never more to return.

Don't look at me, I didn't do it. OK, so I will confess what I know. Mom is not the heroine in this story. Sorry folks. She's human. Mom without thought just trashed the poor guy. I guess she had enough of him hanging around all those years. And if you know Mom, she doesn't let things sit idly by. If they do not have some purposeful use, their time is at hand. His # came up that cloudy day, and she went on her sunny way. At least for a time. UNTIL, big bro came home one day and happened to be looking for Mick. It ain't happenin' Bro' (pardon the slang), I thought. Mick was kicked to the curb, by yo mama.

He will have to speak for himself on what he must have felt that very moment and for some time to come (try 30 years or so). I can only imagine what she stripped that boy from by taking his prized possession from him. And without permission, no less. Not good.

To top it off, she was just gleefully glad she had spared her prized possession of Charles'; his gum wrapper chain (say, do you still have that, Bro???). You know those long chains that we used to make with gum wrappers? Maybe you are not that old. Anyway, his was different, I mean it was a sight to behold and much for a mama to be proud of. Really. It had to have been 1000's of feet long. Well, it seemed so to me. But you have to wonder, what woman in her right mind would kick Mick to the curb and keep an artsy gum-wrapper chain? A no-nonsense woman. And that would be my mama.

Has she lived to regret it? "I suppose.", she says as she giggles. And even Charles will tell you when she giggles like that it's really hard to stay angry at her. Notice I did say "stay".

When I showed her Mick's card, she immediately recognized him and said, "Well, yeah, that's Mickey Mantle." I told her Charles sent the pic and wanted to know if she knew where that $52,000 card was? An odd look danced across that pretty little morning face of hers, and she replied, "Well, I just thought it was an old box of cards that was no good. And, too, now that I'm thinking about it, he had no business leaving Mickey there with me anyway."

So my brother owes it to his little mama that he's not a wealthy man today. But she would say that wealth does not a man make. Sorry Bro! What do you think the gum-wrapper chain might bring you? You might want to check on E-bay.

1000 Words

2008-04-29T10:28:00.008-05:00

Why write your story when you have beautiful photos? After all, a picture, as they say, says a 1000 words. Well, for one thing that many words would be overkill. And what if you had four, five, or ten pictures. Woo-hoo, now that's a lot of words.

All joking aside, photos add a really nice touch to a story, and I highly encourage you to add them when they are available to you.

This particular picture was taken a few months ago by a professional photographer and friend, Andrea. Actually, this is a four generation of my sweet little mama of 86 years, my lovely daughter, April, her precious daughter, and yours truly. Memories were made that day for sure.

When I look at this pic, I think of the many memories we have shared together over the years. And now Ella, our fourth generation is adding new and exciting events every day. She's such a delight that I do believe her photos go way over 1000 words!

So for your next story, see if you can find pics to complement your memories. If you don't have personal photos, find pics that accommodate a theme in the story or perhaps a time era. Just to name a few sources, you can find photos on the Internet, or in the newspaper, or a magazine.

Put on your Hard-Hats

2008-04-21T09:58:00.007-05:00

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Please visit my professional website: http://www.thewritememories.com/

Autobiography and Biography Reads

2008-03-18T15:34:00.017-05:00

I always have an autobiography or a biography on my nightstand just begging to be read. As often as I can, I accommodate. I love reading about people. What makes them tick? What can I learn from their challenges? What value do they bring to their world? Too, I love to discover different writing styles.

I hope you have a love of reading true stories that leave you with a sense of redemption. If you don't, try a few and see if you don't get hooked as well.

In the workshop we share our fav auto/biographies from other authors. Often it broadens our own reading selection. Just another reason why meeting in a group is productive!

*Note: I try and read about various types of people, yet I am selective. I have been known to start a book only to find it was filled with so much dismay, language, and sex that I closed it never to look at it again. I did read a biography of Natalie Wood as she had been one of my favorite actresses. I was saddened that she made some of the choices she did, yet being a counselor, I could understand how a person could have so many issues being reared by a confused parent. I started a book on Marlyn Monroe and quickly closed it. What I did read made me realize just how vile Hollywood can be, and how it can eat a person alive. Elvis and Me by Priscilla Presley was loaded with language. I don't think I have ever read a book with so many curse words; it did open my eyes. He was definitely one gifted but confused person. So sad.

OK, folks, maybe you think I am way too old fashioned. Maybe. And I will probably stay that way.

HERE ARE JUST A FEW OF MY FAVS:

Vignettes from the Past by Pauline Whisnant

Just As I Am by Billy Graham

Rebel with a Cause by Franklin Graham

Light in my Darkest Hour by Catherine Marshall

Falwell an Autobiography by Jerry Falwell

The Woman at the Well by Dale Evans Rogers

No Compromise by Melody Green

It Takes Commitment by Chad Hennings

An Autobiography Tom Landry by Tom Landry

Love Can Build a Bridge by Naomi Judd

The Big Picture by Dr. Ben Carson

To Live Again by Catherine Marshall

I am Jackie Chan by Jackie Chan

Surprised By Laughter by C.S. Lewis

A Man Called Peter by Catherine Marshall

Up, Up and Away by Marilyn McCoo and Billy Davis, Jr.

All the Gold in California by Larry Gatlin

Ann-Margaret My Story by Ann-Margaret

Barbara Bush by Barbara Bush

The Story of Helen Keller by Helen Keller

Against All Odds by Chuck Norris

Quiet Strength by Tony Dungy

The Lion of Wall Street by Jack Dreyfus

The Life of Jerry Falwell by Macel Falwell

Goldie, a lotus grows in the mud by Goldie Hawn

All the stories of my students!

If you have time, please feel free to send me your favs as well.

*****You may be able to find these on Amazon's discount list at http://www.amazon.com/ Too, Half Price Books is a great store to find good prices.

Also, check it out at your local library.

Taking The First Step

2008-03-18T13:14:00.011-05:00

Most people freeze up when they are asked to write something longer than a paragraph. And here I am asking you to consider writing your life story! I promise you, if you can talk, you can write. And even if you can't talk, more than likely you can think. And how do you think? Typically in words, right?

But you continue with your frozen determination and ask, "What if I am not good at putting thoughts together, or do well in grammar and spelling? And what if I am not creative?"

I totally understand the fear factor and allowing it to immobilize you. We all have participated in giving over to that illness at some point in our lives. The good news is, I do know there is a cure. And it begins with simply taking the first step. How did you learn to swim? or walk? or talk? or anything? You had to start somewhere. And that first step does not have to be huge.

FROM THE CRADLE
Let me give you one tiny step to work on today. Carve out a few minutes, and find a quiet place by yourself with a nice cup of coffee, tea, or beverage of your choice and relax. Now for a few minutes take a peek into your past. Let's begin with the beginning. Pretend I came over to sit by the fireplace with you and you are telling me what you know about how you came to be on this earth! Who are your parents? When did they get married, if they did? Did they have any children before you? What was your birth order? When were you born? Do you know anything about your birth? Where your were born? How much did you weigh, etc.? What did they name you? Was there a reason they gave you that name?

That's all. Now tell me a flood of thoughts didn't just jump through your head?

AN EXAMPLE:
I'll go first as sometimes hearing another person's story sparks our memory.

My parents were Everette and Pauline. They were married in 1945. They had two sons before me. I was the baby of the family, yet in many ways I was like an only child since I came so many years later than my brothers.

I was born in May in a town in Virginia. My mother told me I was ready to be born, but the doctor refused to come in to work until 7AM. Like I knew that? No one sent me that memo!!! So I was pressing to enter this world...but the nurses would not let me arrive until doc was there (I guess legal issues). Mom said the nurses were cursing him saying,"Where is that d_ _ _ _ doctor????" Imagine the struggle Mom and I both went through. At least I don't remember. Well, maybe in my subconscious.

I was a whopping 10 lbs and a few ounces. Tell me I didn't have a reason to want to get out of those small quarters!? And my mama was tiny. One other quick note of interest: While pregnant she ate banana splits every day at the local malt shop. No wonder I weighed in over 10 pounds. And to this day, I do NOT like ice-cream and definitely NOT banana splits.

They named me Ellen Marie though that is not what my dad originally wanted to name me. Are you ready? He decided that my name should be "Precious". What on this earth was that man thinking? Mom flat told him, "No way!" What was it that she knew? Hummm. Anyway, he finally gave in and his second choice was Ellen Marie. Nellie was his sister's name and her middle name was Marie. Hummm, wonder if that had anything to do with it? Too, I was always told I looked like my Aunt Nellie. I have thought more than once that Mom probably wishes she had let him name me Precious...because maybe I would have mirrored the name. Oh me. You can't blame the guy for trying.

By the way, my name is an old name for my generation. I have had people to tell me that I don't look like an Ellen. I'm not sure what that means. I didn't ask. My husband's great aunt told me I should go by my second name, because she didn't like my first name. While that stung a little, I had to remember she is senile and almost 100. So I guess at that age you should be allowed to say whatever you want. I remember once in elementary I decided that I wanted to be called Marie instead of Ellen. That didn't last long. No, I never got "Ellie", or "EL". My husband did introduce me once as "Elaine". Now that was an interesting moment. When I was in jr high school, I did start signing my name LN and still do to this very day.

Ellen, by the way, means Light or Bright Shinning One, a derivative of Helen (Greek). Marie is a derivative of Mary (Hebrew), it means myrrh (a bitter spice), and I believe has the connotation of healing. I have come to appreciate Ellen as I like what it means. I would like to think I have brought some LIGHT/healing into this dark world. Often times people do call me, "Ellen Marie".

I love the meaning behind names, and I picked my children's names with that in mind. April means "A New Beginning" or "Opening" and she was for me. Stephen means "Crowned One" and is he ever!

WHAT'S YOURS? CHECK IT OUT: www.babynamesworld.com

I just went to that site, and it also says Ellen means Torch! I love it. You would have to know me to appreciate that! I can hear my husband laughing now! (He better be careful because his name didn't even have a derivative, origin, or a meaning. ouch.) Too, while Ellen is not a popular given name in America, in Sweden (2006) Ellen was in the top 20 popular names given to girls. The year I was born only 85 of us little chickies were named Ellen.

So you see, how one question can lead you into another story or subject of some sort?

HOW DO YOU PUT IT INTO PRINT?
You can write out your answers in sequence and leave it that way. Or you can put it together in story form or prose. You choose. Just begin. Please don't be afraid of it not being perfect. Most of us are not English professors, so don't let that impede your journey to writing your life story. You can always go back and edit it or even have someone to look over it and edit it as well. Just don't let them change the content of what you are saying.

Kudos to you for being one step closer than you were yesterday!

Hard Hats Welcomed

2008-03-18T12:28:00.003-05:00

Thank you for being a part of the construction on this site. I look forward to the days ahead where I find your stories posted on the site. Do I ever wish I would have had the advantage of a blog when I first developed my writing workshop years ago. Yet, am I ever thankful for the advantages the 21st century has afforded us in the way of putting our work in print electronically. Looking forward to building the possibilities with you!

Write Your Way To Health

2008-03-17T21:13:00.009-05:00

Since developing the writing workshop years ago (a previous post), I have encountered numerous articles revealing how writing can improve your health. Just this past week I ran across an article in the Dallas Morning News that caught my eye. The title was, "Is the Pen Mightier Than The Doctor?" Experts from fields of anthropology, medicine, and psychology are applauding the importance of writing advancing good health. They are presenting a three part series called: "How Stories Restore Us." Larry Allums, executive director of the Dallas Institute of Humanities and Culture stated,

"Communication via the Internet has become an excellent outlet for people who
are ill and such writing is gaining popularity. So many memoirs are being
written today. This is the wonderful aspect of the blog." http://www.dallasmorningnews.com/

WHICH PEN FITS BEST 4 U?
Too, there are numerous articles revealing the advantages writing brings emotionally to individuals. Writing is known to be a soothing therapy to its author. The types of writing may come in the form of journaling, poetry, prose, writing workshops like mine, creative writing, etc. A person has to find what works best for them. I know people who journal almost everyday, and it has enriched their lives and helped them through many of life's storms. Others are not that disciplined and or it is just not their thing. They may choose to have a visit with the pen only when the mood strikes which might be once a year but that once a year meeting brings healing and clarity to a situation. It's not as much about quantity, but the value the author finds in that writing moment.

SOCIAL ADVANTAGES
In my research one of the things that impressed me was that when people gather in a class to write and share their stories many of their social deficits are resolved. It's found that this is especially true for senior citizens. Research also concludes that seniors not only benefit on a social level, but this type of setting creates a fertile environment for better health. Because of that advantage to seniors, I was asked to go into assisted living centers in the area and teach my workshop. It was not the right time for me to jump on board, but I thought it was an insightful way to help the elderly.

Not to exclude spring chickens! I had many teenagers who took my workshop and developed not just their writing skills but found therapy in sharing their challenging times. We all need to find a safe haven for sharing those moments. I had teens as well as older folks who shared closet secrets. We all have them. And I am not saying we need to expose everything. A wise word from the Bible states, "Only a fool utters all that he knows." (Proverbs 29:11). What I am addressing are secrets that have hindered the growth of the person in some capacity. When you see people break down in tears flowing like a fountain while telling their story, you know you have just been a part of something magical if not surreal. It embraced you and brought a deeper understanding to human tragedy. You walk away speechless. And I did many a time in my workshops. Having other students there created an environment for emotional support. Too, on a confidential note, what was revealed in class stayed safely tucked within those four walls.

Participants shared everything from birth tragedies to death blessings. Rarely was anything left out. Adoption and its deep roots of pain yet triumph. Deaths of babies lost to a devastating illness. War stories that didn't always wear medals. Misgivings in families. Rape. Incest. Crisis pregnancies. Abandonment. Divorce. The list is endless. And not to dwell on the clouded side of life, but it's important to share that those very stories ended with redemption eventually peeping its beautiful little head through the storm.

Which reminds me of another article called, "Savor the Sorrow". Author and Wake Forest prof Eric G. Wilson states in his book Against Happiness:In Praise of Melancholy when "happy types" run away from sorrow, they cut themselves off from a full ride--and from the wellspring of creativity. He believes that Americans are dangerously addicted to happiness. (Dallas Morning News)

My own personal hand in research came in the way of surveys in my workshops. The stats always proved that writing became a method to soften the blows in life. Better to write than to run from pain!

WRITING IN ALL THE RIGHT PLACES
Writing has always found its way into every crevice of life. Whether it be on the walls of prisons like in Alexandre Dumas' The Count of Monte Cristo or scribbled in the ground leaving a message like Christ did when the Pharisees were busy about condemning a women in sin, or in a bottle that is thrown to sea. Did you read recently about a couple who did just that and interestingly enough the bottle was found by another couple who happened to have the same wedding anniversary? Did you see the movie, "Message In A Bottle"? Or think of the movie "Cast Away" where Tom Hanks found comfort in trying to journal his way to survival. Think of all the hieroglyphics telling a story on walls in caves throughout history. Too, I can't help but think of poetry. Many a poet will tell you their creative juices flowed best when they were squeezed through life's tugs-of-war.

While some of these are fictional, we know reality speaks the same story many times over. Without question, we know writing is oftentimes marrow to our bones. Try it and your health might like it.

***SIDE NOTE
TO COPYRIGHT OR NOT:
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The Write Beginning

2008-03-17T16:09:00.005-05:00

Having a deep love for writing (yes, as well as Pilates), I could not resist sharing how capturing your memories/thoughts on paper might bring you into a more healthy lifestyle. While research has proven that writing is healthy for you (news about that in the next article), I am pleased to bring you more than just stats but empirical evidence.

Over ten years ago, I experienced somewhat of an epiphany. I was at a crossroads having decided to pass on the lay counseling and speaking mantle after seven years. Where was I to go next? As usual my life took an unexpected avenue of change. One day it became crystal clear what the next genre should be: to develop a writing workshop. Me? It sort of felt like what I imagined Moses experienced when the Lord elected him to free His people, the nation of Israel. Shock, maybe? Remember that story? Moses informed God that he was not the man for the job afterall, he was not eloquent, and was slow of speech and tongue. And the Lord reminded him, “Who hath made man’s mouth?... Have not I the Lord? Now therefore go, and I will be with your mouth, and teach you what you should say.” (Exodus 4, KJV) Moses continued to argue with God. Not a good idea (had that T-Shirt and did not want a new one). So I listened.

The catalyst was my sweet little mama (see photo above). A stroke had invaded her body one sobering March morning while visiting me here in Texas. As time evolved and recovery settled in, we came to realize that she would never be quite the same. Her writing skills we had all once enjoyed were escaping her mind and hand. While she knew what she wanted to pen, her neurological responses had other plans. Imagine waking up one day and hardly recognizing the body you now reside in.

During those challenging days, came the impression that I was to develop this workshop for people to write their life story, their autobiography. I feverishly set out with a passion. And in a matter of a few months, I had drafted a six-week writing workshop. Not long after, I had the final results and started the journey to present it to the public. My first stop was the Dallas Public Library. I had anticipated I would have many “stops” to make before an interest would present itself. Was I ever pleased that the librarian was immediately interested. And so began the memories. There were almost 20 in that first class. I remember standing in the room before the students came in and wondering, “How in the world did I get here?”

The engagement between students while sharing their life stories was reward in and of itself. In the beginning my mission was to help people get their stories on paper before it was too late. Little did I know how this seemingly simple mission would bring mental and emotional health into the lives of these precious students.

Over the next few years I witnessed life changes in many students as they wrote their way to better health. As I recognized the health connection and the greater need for what the workshop might offer, I wrote a grant for a local senior center. Too, I was asked to co-write a grant with a librarian for the Dallas Library. For more info you might want to visit my "writing"website: http://www.thewritememories.com/

2008-01-27T20:56:00.000-06:00